“The devil wants everyone EXCEPT married couples having sex. So he will use whatever tactics he can in order to destroy your sex life. Some are obvious, like adultery, pornography or abuse. But other tactics the devil may use to destroy your sexual bond can be more subtle, like convincing both partners they no longer have work to do in maintaining this bond. For men this means he stops creating a sensual and romantic experience around sex, simply turning it into a transaction. For women, this could mean she stops incorporating that visual stimulation men need, simply reducing sex to a matter of atmosphere (something damn near impossible for men).”
– Chapter 2: Why Husbands Care, The Good-Looking Wife
Is there anything more difficult for the modern aspiring Biblical wife to understand than that looking good is absolutely part of her wifely duties? On the one hand, we are told that men are visual creatures, that they need to have visual stimuli in order to feel intimate desire. And yet, on the other hand, Scripture warns women against vanity, reminds us that beauty fades, and encourages us to put away fancy garments in favor of a meek and quiet spirit.
And yet 7 out of 10 men report that they would be emotionally upset if their wife let herself go and made no attempt to look good ever. Studies have also showed that while men care about looks the same throughout their lifetime, women apparently begin to care less about looks after age 35.
This means that while one partner’s needs and considerations are changing, the other’s isn’t.
In The Good-Looking Wife, I uncover the why for the modern Biblical wife– why husbands care, why we must care, how we can recover our feminine presentation, and I include a practical, Scripture-based 7-day devotional.