And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of YAH.
Romans 12:2
This isn’t just for us as wives, or even as women. But for us as those who wish to prove that good, pleasing and perfect will of our Heavenly Father. But this isn’t accomplished without total transformation.
And according to Romans 12, this transformation is one of the mind.
At any given moment, it’s often our minds that are the seat of our problems. After all, The Word says out of the heart of man do evil thoughts flow (Matthew 15:19). So let us guard our hearts, conform to the Word and not the world, and be totally renewed by submitting every thought captive to HaMashayach, refusing to consume junk-food thoughts any longer!
10 Obtuse Beliefs That Are Holding You Back
1. “I’m Not Good Enough”
Says who? The Most High SABAOTH knows every strand of hair on your head (Luke 12:7), He chose you before the foundation of the world (Ephesians 1:4), and you are the bearer of His Image (Genesis 5:1-2). When He beheld everything in creation after having created it, He said “Very Good.” You are His Workmanship, divine evidence of His Being. You are good and good enough.
2. “I’m Not Worthy of ______”
Well, thinking like this will most certainly block the blessing. What good was Yah’s sacrifice of His Son if you are still walking around claiming to be unworthy of His good, pleasing and perfect will?
I used to think the same way. For me, it was, “I’m not worthy of being a wife.” The enemy really had me convinced that because of my past, my sin and my blemishes, it was pointless for me to hope for marriage. But Yah’s will is not just Holy– it’s GOOD. It’s PLEASANT. And it’s WITHOUT MISTAKE.
Because I believed Yah over everything (even “logic”) I’m standing here today as a wife and mother, knowing with full assurance that I am completely worthy of every blessing He says I’m worthy of having.
Believing you are worthy is not the same as entitlement. Being worthy means not talking yourself out of blessings Yah has already ordained for you. Entitlement and pride is feeling that what you’re worth is somehow owed to you, when nothing is owed to you except that which was stolen or Promised.
3. “The Most High Would Never _____ For Me / Grant Me ______”
With the pure thou wilt shew thyself pure; and with the froward thou wilt shew thyself froward.
Psalm 18:26
If you see Yah as a graceless, merciless, unredeeming tyrant sitting on His Throne of clouds, then this is what you’ll experience. Faith can move mountains according to Scripture, and dare I say that a lack of faith can, too!
He dethroned princes, destroyed dynasties, and cut off entire lineages for us, His Children, even in our sin. Anything He did once, He can do again. Knock and it shall be opened unto you, ask and it shall be answered, seek and ye shall find (Matthew 7:7).
The scarcity mentality breeds lack, not the other way around. Be proactive and on the offense when it comes to flushing away this thought pattern, because you never know what blessing you’re blocking in your life with such a sore loser mentality.
4. “I’m Stuck In This Situation Forever / Things Will Never Get Better”
This was a huge stumbling block for me in times passed. I would get so attached to the darkness and scarcity and pain of the moment, that I refused to acknowledge the light ahead that was Promised to me.
He knows the plans He has for you, and they include prosperity (Jeremiah 29:11)! Nothing is eternal except Him and His Love!
He says that those who hope in Him are NEVER put to shame (Romans 10:11)! Think on that every time you feel stuck, blocked, beaten, or abandoned. What do you hope for? And are you hoping for it FROM Yah? He says you won’t be ashamed when you hope in Him. Test His Word, and see if this is true.
5. “I Don’t Know My Purpose”
Have you asked Yah? Have you sought your purpose in Yah? Are you measuring purpose on vanity, like careers, your roles, or your own righteousness? What does purpose even mean to you?
We have a divine purpose in YAHUSHA that is greater than this world. Being caught up in a purposed defined by worldly things will drag us down a worldly path.
“If My people who are called by My name will humble themselves, and pray and seek My face, and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin and heal their land.
2 Chronicles 7:14
2 Chronicles 7:14 is your purpose. He doesn’t desire rams and lambs, nor incense and oils. He wants YOU, COMPLETELY. To simply dwell with you in perfect peace, harmony, order, and pure love. The best part of this is He has already done the work and paved the way. All you must do is 1. Be humble, 2. Pray, 3. Seek His Face, and 4. Turn From Your Wicked Ways according to 2 Chr 7:14; then He will hear, He will forgive you, and He will bring healing.
Taste His goodness daily. And life will become more than purpose to you. Life will become life, and life everlasting!
6. “I Could ______ If Only ____”
If only I get married, then I would be modest. I could start that business if God would give me more followers. I will tithe like Abraham when I get a raise!
These are called excuses. If Yah says you are leaving Egypt, and you say, “But I need an army, weapons, and food,” then you aren’t really ready to leave.
You can do that thing you think you can’t do, because it is by HIS Strength and HIS Might and HIS Wisdom do we do good works. Don’t depend on the conventions and logic of MAN to line up for YAH’s Power!
One thing I’m learning and accepting in this season of my life, is that His Math is not our math! His numbers works even when we don’t get it.
For just as the heavens are higher than the earth, so my ways are higher than your ways and my thoughts higher than your thoughts.”
Isaiah 55:9
7. “There’s Always Tomorrow”
We can be so disillusioned as to believe we can do everything tomorrow. If our Lord wanted, He could shut tomorrow up, and then what?
Time is precious. Today is precious. We have to harken today. We have to take heed today. We have to put that sinful thing away today!
Call that loved one. Do that project. Have that lunch with a friend. Tomorrow will come, but you may not live to see it, another person may not live to see it, and the window of opportunity you’re standing in might close.
8. “I Can Repent Later”
What if today was our last day? There is no such thing as later. There is only now. We only get one life, and that life is not lived later, it’s lived right now.
Yes, The Most High will be merciful and forgiving and relenting. But I like to think about it like this:
Why let long stretches of time pass where someone I love is hurt by me, upset with me, or needs to share their heart with me but I’m being stubborn?
Yahuah is that Someone I Love. When we sin and live comfortably in sin, it’s a betrayal to Our Husband. Why keep hanging on to it, when we could sit down with Him, apologize, ask for forgiveness, and turn over a new leaf in the Marriage TODAY?
Yeshua had a perfect parable for this, The Parable of the Ten Virgins:
“At midnight the cry rang out: ‘Here is the bridegroom! Come out to meet him!’
Matthew 25:6-13
Then all the virgins woke up and trimmed their lamps. 8The foolish ones said to the wise, ‘Give us some of your oil; our lamps are going out.’
‘No,’ said the wise ones, ‘or there may not be enough for both us and you. Instead, go to those who sell oil and buy some for yourselves.’
But while they were on their way to buy it, the bridegroom arrived. Those who were ready went in with him to the wedding banquet, and the door was shut.
Later the other virgins arrived and said, ‘Lord, lord, open the door for us!’
But he replied, ‘Truly I tell you, I do not know you.’
Therefore keep watch, because you do not know the day or the hour.”
Yahuah’s timing is the timing we must prioritize, the only timing that must exist in our minds at all. Be diligent and sieze every opportunity to serve Him, because you never know when He might lock the door…
9. “Why Do They Get to ______ and I Don’t?”
I used to wonder this about many things, in many chapters of my life.
When I was a kid, “Why do they get a big birthday party and I don’t?”
When I became a single teen mom, “Why do they get to have a happy, whole family and I don’t?”
When I got married, “Why do they get to have a huge wedding and I don’t?”
There is always something to covet, always something to be sour about if you’re looking for it. But not only does this mentality rob us of joy in the present moment, it also plants dangerous seeds of envy that, when left unchecked, will grow to become violence.
The very first murder occured because of the wrath of envy, of covetousness.
And the LORD looked with favor on Abel and his offering, 5but He had no regard for Cain and his offering. So Cain became very angry, and his countenance fell.”
“Then Cain said to his brother Abel, “Let us go out to the field.”c And while they were in the field, Cain rose up against his brother Abel and killed him.”Genesis 4:4b-5, 8
If we’re not careful to uproot this mentality, we might find ourselves becoming destructive to those around us, rather than fruitful. This mentality also makes us turn our nose up at Yah’s provision. Feeling entitled to someone else’s blessings makes us ungrateful to Yah, and worst of all makes us forget that we can also have a greater blessing if we sought His Face, took accountability, and simply asked Yah.
Yes, it’s really that simple. Reach out your hand to Him today.
10. “I Don’t Have To Tell Them I’m Angry With Them! If They Loved/Knew Me, They Wouldn’t Need Me to Say It!”
Have you ever listened to someone explain why they were mad at you; that they were frustrated with you; that you did this and that to them, and they were hoping you would apologize; and all you could think was,
“Wow, I had no idea they were even mad at me or hurt by my actions.”
We can’t read minds, so we shouldn’t expect others to read our minds either. So many issues in families, friendships and even professionally, would be resolved if people were just willing to sit down and talk. Some issues are grave miscommunications. Some issue are deeper wounds, but communicating about them would be a great first step to healing.
What’s holding you back from telling someone how you feel? Is that person arrogant? Will they laugh in your face? Or are they level-headed, but you’ve already had this conversation a million times and they still don’t get it?
Love covers a multitude of sin (1 Peter 4:8). Things may get fixed, but it might not happen when we want it to. Are we okay with that? Are we willing to seek Yah for peace and mercy even while at odds with our loved ones? Are we okay with sitting back and letting Yahuah take care of it?
Some chapters of life are question marks; but I find that the following chapter is typically a deeper answer than we were expecting or could have even prayed for.
When you’re upset with someone but don’t give them the grace of telling them plainly, you will begin to grow resentful. If you have to say it in a text, email, or letter; whether it’s next week or next month. Learn how to communicate your feelings, without fear of rejection, spite, or consequences in general. Otherwise you will bottle it up and suffer the consequences of that the longer you hold on to it (trust me, I’m speaking from experience).
Your eye is like a lamp that provides light for your body. When your eye is healthy, your whole body is filled with light. But when your eye is unhealthy, your whole body is filled with darkness. And if the light you think you have is actually darkness, how deep that darkness is!”
Matthew 6:22-23
We will not be perfect in this lifetime; but the most valuable thing we have is our minds. And when we dedicate our minds to the service of YHWH, we will find liberation from the flesh, the world, and the darkness which rules it. We will become Holy as He is Holy.
