“Why Can’t I Address My Husband By His First Name?”

Covered in this article:

• Titles are a form of honor
• Why we don’t call our husbands their first names
• Rebuking a resistant heart
• A list of honorable titles

Titles Are A Form of Honor

Do you address your husband by his first name?

Ask yourself why?

Then ask yourself do you truly honor him?

Doesn’t he have a title? We address doctors, politicians, officers, judges, and professors by their titles. Why? Because they’ve worked to earn their titles, and it is their right to have the bare minimum respect of being addressed respectfully.

Don’t we owe the same to our husbands?

Your husband works hard. He strives towards YAH. He takes care of you. He loves you.

Even if he doesn’t, he’s still your husband. If a doctor is not a perfect doctor, do we stop calling him a doctor? If a judge isn’t a perfect judge, do we stop addressing them as Judge So and So?

No, we don’t. Not until they step down from their position. Your husband, no matter what he does and doesn’t do, is your husband until you divorce him, and thus he deserves to be honored so long as he carries the title of husbandman!

Why We Israelite Women Don’t Call Our Husbands By Their First Names

“In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands [subordinate, not as inferior, but out of respect for the responsibilities entrusted to husbands and their accountability to YAHUAH, and so partnering with them] so that even if some do not obey the word [of YAHUAH], they may be won over [to Christ] without discussion by the godly lives of their wives, when they see your modest and respectful behavior [together with your devotion and appreciation—love your husband, encourage him, and enjoy him as a blessing from YAHUAH].” 1 Peter 3:1-2

“For in this way in former times the holy women, who hoped in YAHUAH, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands and adapting themselves to them; just as Sarah obeyed Abraham [following him and having regard for him as head of their house], calling him lord. And you have become her daughters if you do what is right without being frightened by any fear [that is, being respectful toward your husband but not giving in to intimidation, nor allowing yourself to be led into sin, nor to be harmed].” 1 Peter 3:5-6

It’s that simple. If we claim to be following in the Truth, and claim we are just as righteous as our foremothers, then we follow their blueprint and the calling in our lives as women to be submissive, obedient, and honorable.

We don’t call our husbands their first names, because it simply doesn’t acknowledge their headship. For those of you who have children, do you allow them to call you your first name, or are they ordered to call you Mama, Mom, Mother, Ama, etc?

You don’t let your children call you Amanda, do you? No, you don’t. Why? Because you’re not just Amanda to them, you’re their mother. You have authority. You have given them life. You deserve that much respect.

Your husband isn’t just ‘Kevin’ to you. He’s shown you the Kevin that no one else gets to experience. The protection of Kevin, the love of Kevin, the intimacy of Kevin. Most importantly, the headship of Kevin.

Rebuking A Resistant Heart

Are you hardened towards the idea of calling your husband lord or any other respectful title? Why?

It was appropriate for our foremothers, and it’s appropriate for you.

It doesn’t matter if you feel like he deserves it or not. You don’t always deserve to be protected or taken care of. But as a part of your husband’s responsibilities, he does what he supposed to do regardless of what you do.

Do you know that The Scripture NEVER explicitly tells us to love our husbands? It does, however, explicitly tells us to honor them, respect them, and submit to them.

If you have a problem with addressing your husband with honor, then you have a problem with The Word of Yahuah. If that’s the case, I urge you to seek YAH for a humble heart that loves order.

Moreover, you would be surprised how your husband responds to your choosing to honor him with a title. Speaking in my own experience, the dynamics of my marriage changed once I began calling my husband Master, Lord, and Chief. He was more receptive of my requests, had a softer heart towards me & my moments of imperfection, and his desire for intimacy increased.

It’s truly the small things such as these that make our husbands feel significantly more honored.

Do you want to learn more about honoring your husband as an Israelite woman should?

Read “Nurture His Masculinity”

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• Why nurturing his masculinity is a top priority
• What your husband isn’t telling you about his manhood
• What behaviors detract from his masculinity
• The three easiest ways to honor his masculinity

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A List of Honorable Titles

• Lord
• Ish or Husband
• Head
• Adon
• Adonai
• Master
• Noble
• Chief or Chieftain
• Shar/Sir (Meaning Prince)
• Malak/Malachi/Melchi/Malchi (Meaning King & Angel)
• Mr. <insert last name>
• If he has an official title, call him by it, ex: Dr. Officer, Minister, Bishop, etc.Your Excellency
• Captain
• Your Highness
• Monsignor (French – My Sir/Lord)

No matter your husband’s rank, duties, or role outside of the home, he is and always will be YOUR head within the home. Let his home be the place he is guaranteed respect and honor no matter what!

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